I quite over domestic violence‘ –CHIKA IKE
‘You are equally responsible’ – Ex-hubby TONY EBERIRI
Few days after divorce, Nollywood actress, Chike Ike and her ex-hubby, Tony Eberiri, are still throwing literary missiles at each other over their orchestrated failed married.
The verbal hostilities started some days back when the delectable actress went online to declare that she was a victim of domestic violence.
The 28 year old actress in an open letter on Saturday, August 10, 2013, admitted she quit her matrimonial home because her hubby was a wife-beater.
“The past three years was a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to rebuild back my self esteem. It has been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes, I pull myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I have been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this one topic I have tried so hard to avoid and I have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there is really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reason. Growing up as a girl, I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before got married. I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage, I didn’t understand because I am not the type of a woman a an beats, but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl, I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions. After every beating he pleads, cries and says it won’t happen again. Once again, I thought it was love and made excuse for him.
Over the years, when it kept happening consistently, I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride, self esteem, self worth, and most painfully, I lost a pregnancy (miscarriage). I almost most lost my life in the process. Then, I realized how serious and abnormal it really was. I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20 years old and very naive when I got married. They said I married for money. I was married to a corporate guy who had a 9am to 5pm job in a bank, lives in a rented 2-bedroom apartment at Egbeda. So, do the maths! I married for love. I did a traditional wedding, a white wedding and a court wedding. That’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years, I hoped, prayed and wished that one day it will change. Bu the last strand that broke the camel’s back was during a heated argument when he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged and it shattered on the wall.
I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage. I am not saying this to weep up sympathy from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it’s real.”
ENCOMIUM Weekly reliably gathered that her ex-husband, Tony Eberiri, has cautioned her to desist from posting rubbish about him on social media.
He, according to a source, strongly warned her to desist from accusing him alone as she was architect of their marriage misfortune. We learnt that he warned her to stop all the campaign of calumny or face the wrath of the law.
On Saturday, August 17, 2013, we contacted the delectable actress and asked us to send our questions for confirmation via her email, firstname.lastname@example.org . we wrote, “Please we would like to have your response to these questions before we go for press.
- How do you feel about the divorce?
- What are the lessons learnt?
- Is it true that you are a victim of domestic violence as reported by you on social media?
- Your ex-hubby alleged that you were responsible for the break-up and that you were exaggerating in your report, what’s your take on that?
- He threatened to use the law against you if you don’t stop your campaign of calumny. What’s your take on that?
- What are some of the regrets in the union while it lasted?
- What’s next after divorce?
- Any plan to remarry and when?”
We equally sent a reminder on Sunday, August 18, 2013 at 8am, but no response.
Nollywood actress cum model, Chike Nancy Ike was born on November 8, 1985, in Onitsha, Anambra State. She grew up in Lagos but it was not until 2004 that she started professional acting. Her first movie was shot in February 2004 when she went for an audition of Chico Ejiro’s movie, Sweet Love.
In 206, Chike Ike’s wedding was the talk of the town. The superlative nuptial at her hometown and was well attended by top players in Nollywood, politicians and business moguls from Delta State, where her hubby, Tony Eberiri hails from. Sadly, the wedding lasted till late 201. Tony was reported to have made serious allegations of infidelity against Chike while she blamed him for being a wife beater.
The union was finally dissolved on Friday, July 26, 2013, by a Magistrate Court in Abuja.
She announced her single status on Facebook on Sunday, July 28, 2013 in the following statement:
“Hi fabs! Thank you for your love and support over the years. It has been an emotional journey and I want to officially announce to you guys that the court has granted me a divorce. I am now officially divorced. Thanks.”
- FEMI OYEWALE
This story was first published in ENCOMIUM Weekly on Tuesday, August 20, 2013