Encomium
Marriage is a beautiful institution a lot of people long to enter, while some dread it. Despite all the odds, so many people are happily married and enjoying their union.
ENCOMIUM Weekly presents wives of some Nigerian entertainers and what has kept their union…
HENRIETTA KOSOKO, Jide Kosoko’s wife
What will you say has been sustaining your marriage over the years?
It is just God Almighty, nothing more. The grace of God has been seeing us through.
How long have you been married?
21 years.
How have you been able to cope with your husband’s busy schedule and challenges that come with your work?
I am coping, I thank God for that. I also thank God that we are in the same profession, so I understand the terrain, its challenges and all that.
What is your advice to other women out there?
They should learn how to manage the home front, the kids and their career. They should also put God first in all they do.
STELLA ENYIOCHA, Emeka Enyiocha’s wife
What will you say has been sustaining your marriage over the years?
It is so simple – patience, tolerance and understanding and most important, my faith in God.
How long have you been married?
It will be seven years in December.
How have you been able to cope with your husband’s busy schedule and challenges that come with your work?
Seriously, it has not been easy, marriage has its ups and downs. Getting married to an entertainer is really challenging. You have to close your eyes and ears to a lot of things. If you are not strong, it will definitely shake you.
A lot of people assume a lot but if you want to have peace of mind, find something to do, get busy.
What is your advice to other women out there?
Shut your ears and eyes to a lot of things. Don’t allow a third party in your home. Note that no two marriages are the same. Find something doing, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Always communicate with your husband. The first four years of our marriage wasn’t easy, he was never at home because of his job. I had to learn how things work in that terrain. I also learnt how to focus on his good part. My husband was such a good man, so, that was my focus. Don’t listen to what people say, don’t try to change your husband, don’t go to his phone, don’t assume. Engage yourself in positive things that will benefit you and your family.
OGECHI ASIEGBU, Ejike Asiegbu’s wife
What will you say has been sustaining your marriage over the years?
It has to do with understanding. Love is just not enough. I have a good understanding of his personality and the nature of his job.
How long have you been married?
17 and half years.
How have you been able to cope with your husband’s busy schedule and challenges that come with your work?
It is something you learn along the way. With patience, tolerance and understanding, I have been able to cope. I am used to his busy schedule, staying late on location or even impromptu calls.
What is your advice to other women out there?
Just understand your husband well, you will be able to tolerate him.
JOY EJIRO, Chico Ejiro’s wife
What will you say has been sustaining your marriage over the years?
Apart from God, I and my husband are very good friends, and we also partner in everything, even in business.
How long have you been married?
16 years.
How have you been able to cope with your husband’s busy schedule and challenges that come with your work?
It has not been easy, I must tell you. It can be challenging and stressful, thank God I am his business partner. So, I understand the nature of things.
What is your advice to other women out there?
Be friends with your partner, don’t hide anything from him, let him know everything you are into, involve him in all you do. We talk a lot, we communicate a lot, even on phone when he is not at home or I am not with him.
-SHADE WESLEY-METIBOGUN
