Experience, they say, is the best teacher. Life becomes more meaningful when we learn from our mistakes and experiences. We spoke with successful Nigerians, who have crossed the golden age about their greatest lessons, their biggest mistakes, regrets and what they would have done differently if they had the chance…
– Adewale Ayuba, Musician
Lessons: I learnt this when MKO Abiola passed on. I noticed that he opened his hands after death and he was not buried with anything. It shows that we came to this world empty and we will go back empty. Nobody followed him among all those market women who were following him before his death. We should be humble and careful when running around to make money.
Mistake: When I was much younger, my wife would always tell me that she loves me but I never reciprocated it. I was with a friend one day and he was telling me about his family life. It was from him I learnt I should always tell my wife how I feel about her.
Regrets: I had a gunshot from a Nigeria police sometime back. The police were brought to my show to protect me and my fans but they ended up shooting me. I couldn’t react as such to it for so many reasons. It was an irony, somebody meant to secure you ended up wounding you.
Another regret I have is not making it like my colleagues abroad. We started the same time but they are bigger than me today. Piracy has affected the industry a lot. I don’t get royalty from any of my albums. And the government is not doing anything about it.
Turning the hand of time: I don’t think I would like to change anything. I would have loved to stop the killing of some of our leaders if I were in the military.
-Ngozi Nwosu, Actress
Lesson: To always be myself, pray to God and walk with God. I have also learnt that no man is an Island.
Mistakes: I didn’t get married to the guy of my dream as at the time he came because I was too busy.
Regrets: I don’t have regret. The only thing I will say is that the negative publicity artists get affects us a lot.
Turning the hand of time: I will love to be that Ngozi Nwosu that is innocent, very playful person I used to be before stardom.
– Oyin Onime, Journalist
Lessons: I have learnt to be patient and humble. When you have these two virtues, you will get far. You will be able to achieve meaningful goals. I have learnt that there is a better way to resolve every issue.
Mistake: My lack of patience in handling some issues. If I had known what I know now, I would have handled some things differently. I would have been more patient in handling a lot of issues in my marriage.
Regrets: People keep asking me but really, I don’t have any regret. I learn from the mistakes I make and I move on. It is not about regret but about learning from the experience.
Turning the hand of time: I would have started my charity work earlier. It has always been on my mind to do certain things. I used to say I don’t have enough. I went out this afternoon and I overheard a woman telling a food vendor that she wanted food but she had only N100 and she was hungry.
I overheard what they were discussing and I paid for her without revealing my identity. The woman was given the food and she prayed and prayed for me that I will not lack what to eat. if I had known I would have done that much earlier. It is not how much but how well.
-Yemi Shodimu, Broadcaster
Lessons: The act of kindness to others. When you are kind to people, you will reap the fruit of kindness. It is good to be kind.
Mistake: I have made mistakes but I just moved on. I don’t dwell on my mistakes, I just move on.
Regrets: Losing my grandmother was a great regret. I wished she lived longer than she did. She was a beautiful woman both inside and outside. I wish she was alive.
Turning the hand of time: I would have married my wife earlier than I did. I would spend all my heart and energy on arts instead of mixing it with sciences. I would have my grandmother still alive likewise my mother-in-law and my parent
‘What comes your way, turn it to an opportunity’
Lessons: I have learnt so much. I have learnt that whatever comes your way, turn it to an opportunity.
Mistake: I don’t think I have any. I don’t consider anything a challenge to me.
Regrets: I don’t have regrets. I move on after a challenge. I learn from it and let it go.
Turning the hand of time: I will do the same business I am doing now. I have never regretted doing it since I started. What I am doing today is what I ventured into even when there was nothing to do. It has given me fame, it has brought me success.