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Why sex is important in marriage (2)

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The importance of sex in marriage cannot be overemphasized. A lot of people believe sex is the string that holds a marriage in place.

Love, understanding, tolerance and sex work together to make a marriage stay in place through thick and thin. Age is also a big deal in a lot of Nigerian marriages as many believe that the man should always be slightly older than the wife, while a few believe that age is nothing but a number.

A lot of couples apparently do not know or have any idea how to initiate sex with their spouses, neither do they know how many times they should make love with their spouses in a month.

ENCOMIUM Weekly spoke with married men and women on how important sex is, the right age difference between a couple, whether it is right for women to marry men older than them knowing full well that sex might be a problem.

 

TOLULOPE ALABI

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Sex is very important. It is paramount.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

Unlimited, as long as they always enjoy it.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

You don’t plan sex with your partner. It just happens naturally when you are in the mood.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

Never, it is not advisable. There will always be a third party to complement the vacuum.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

The age difference should be between 1 and 10.

 

MRS. GODSWILL

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Sex is very important in marriage or else someone will teach you how to do it to your husband.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

Three times a month is very ok because, for some men, sex is more desired than food.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

Me, I don’t initiate sex with my husband. When I am in the mood, I will show him by wearing bum shorts or I will dress very seductive, trust me, it will turn him on.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

No, that is very wrong.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

A man should be older than his wife with five years maximum, if it is more than five years, omo, na prison o.

 

SEGUN

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, very important.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

As much as they can allow. It has no limit. Once time and spiritual atmosphere allows one million times.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

From the morning, while going to work, on phone, in the car, conversation and actions. Finally, cares and kisses. Turn her on anywhere in the house even in the kitchen and make sure she gets to orgasm.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

Consider your sex ability or libido. If a woman thinks she likes sex and she is sexually active then she should marry an active man. Sex is the sweetest thing in earth if both of you are good in it.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Age is no issue, it is understanding and ability to meet each other’s romantic demands.

 

YINKA

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, it is very important in marriage.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

As many times as they want. It depends on their tribe and religion.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

You need to study one another, know the time she likes it and the time she doesn’t

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

It is not encouraging because immediately they are married, sexual intercourse must be there. So, without sex it is like denying her her right.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Normally, it is supposed to be five years but here in Africa, they don’t bother about the age so far there is money.

 

OLORUNFEMI

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, it is.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

It depends on what they want. There is no fast rule about it because two of them will make up a pair and they are from different background so, it is understanding.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

There are so many ways to it, it has many languages, you can start by taunting your partner because you may not be ready and your partner might be so, you have to know your man to avoid trouble.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

It doesn’t work that way. Sometimes it is the older the man, the higher the libido. Men these days exercise a lot and it keeps them in good shape.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Age is a figure, it depends on what you want in marriage.

 

OLABISI

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, is very important, it is one of the factors for marriage.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

There are so many things to think about now, the thought of hard times have affected the frequency. If you can do it once a week but on a good day, twice a week which makes it eight times a month.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

One thing leads to another, there are so many ways. You can sit together, pulling of hands, talk dirty and when going to bed you can give a passionate kiss..

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

It depends, there is no big deal, what is important is love.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

At least, five and above.

 

OLA ODUNMOSU

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, very, very, very important. Without sex there will be no love and no marriage. What is the importance of marriage without sex?

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

It all depends on the libido of both partners.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

So many ways and it must not be restricted to one person. My generation is different from this present one. In my generation it starts with romance but now it is spontaneous.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

It is not advisable, what do you stand to gain unless you are a jiggolo or a gold-digger.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

In real marriage it should be between five to 10.

 

ROTIMI

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, it is very important.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

It depends on both sides, the husband may be tired or the wife might be tired so it depends on how the couple plan it.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

I do not know.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

No, it is not, women are different. Some don’t like too much sex and some like it very much. A woman can marry an older man if she doesn’t like sex but a woman who is sexually active, I will advise she shouldn’t.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

They can be of the same age group but the difference must not be more than three.

 

JUDE

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, sex is important in marriage.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

It varies, it depends on the mood of both parties.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

It comes normal, it depends on the mood and the atmosphere.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?

No, it is not because no matter what the lady does, she will still go out for sex.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

It depends, like me and my wife I am eight years older than her.

 

IDRIS BELLO

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, it is. It is a pivot on which marriage is built. If a man is impotent, why should he marry? He must use his tool. If a woman is starved of sex, she can go and satisfy her emotion elsewhere. It is the first thing, a priority in marriage.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

Sex has no dose that can be enough. For a couple, it should be three times in a week. Sex is not only for child bearing. It enhances good health. It fosters unity between husband and wife. It enhances intimacy between a couple.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

You can initiate sex in many ways. Any time you are in the mood, cuddle her and appreciate all she has done. She will understand your language.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that they might not be sexually active after a while?

It depends on the age difference. A better advise is for an older man to marry a younger woman, he will have a firm control of the home.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Minimum five years. Maximum ten years.

 

TOLULOPE SAMSON

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, sex is very important. Why should there be marriage without sex. It is one of the reasons the marriage institution was created.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

It all depends on the couple and how active their sex live is. Their tribe and religion also has something to do about the frequency of sex they have weekly.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

You need to study each other, know when your partner wants it. Try and understand the body language of your partner.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that they might not be sexually active after a while?

It all depends on the individual. Some ladies don’t mind going for a spouse who is much older than they are. Once you are satisfied with your choice, it is okay.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

I think two years is okay.

 

DAVID BABALOLA

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, sex is very important. It is one of the yardsticks for marriage.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

There are so many things to think about. I am usually carried away by a lot of thought that I don’t consider having sex most times. By the time I think of school fees, house rent, I just forget about sex.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

It all depends on the couple. There are a lot of ways to initiate sex. You can cuddle each other, hold hands, she can sit on your laps. It all depends.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that they might not be sexually active after a while?

Age is just a number. There is nothing bad in it. Love does not know age, once you fall in love, you have fallen in love.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

At least six years and below.

 

FEMI POPOOLA

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, sex is very important in marriage. It is for procreation. It is also a way of preventing adultery. It is the bind of the union.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

Sex makes a couple intimate . it is better for it to take place often. May be three times a week. It should not be less than that anyway. Twelve times in a month.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

They can both shower together at night, that can be a starter. Share deep kiss before going to bed. They should also sleep on the same bed. By the time one rolls towards the other and start cuddling, the message will be understood.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that they might not be sexually active after a while?

I don’t think so. Marry someone you can relate well with. The age different should not be too much so that she can be free with her partner.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Three years is okay.

 

BIODUN AWOYEMI

Do you think sex is important in marriage?

Yes, marriage is important. It should not be neglected in marriage. The couple should not starve each other as well. You have to understand your partner’s sexual heed and try as much as possible to meet it. Not meeting such needs gives room for infidelity.

How much sex should a couple have in a month?

As often as the couple wants it. That is why I said they should understand their sexual needs. You cannot dictate the number of times it should take place. It can be frequent this week and not frequent next week.

How do you initiate sex with your partner?

The couple should understand each other’s body language. Once they do that, every other thing will fall in place.

Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that they might not be sexually active after a while?

Age is a number. There are some old men that are very sexually active while some are not active at all. It all depends on the lady and what she wants.

What should be the age difference between a couple?

Six years difference.

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