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The importance of sex in marriage cannot be overemphasized. A lot of people believe sex is the string that holds a marriage in place.
Love, understanding, tolerance and sex work together to make a marriage stay in place through thick and thin. Age is also a big deal in a lot of Nigerian marriages as many believe that the man should always be slightly older than the wife, while a few believe that age is nothing but a number.
Many couples apparently do not know or have any idea how to initiate sex with their spouses neither do they know how many times they should make love with their spouses in a month.
ENCOMIUM Weekly spoke with married men and women on how important sex is, the right age difference between a couple, whether it is right for women to marry men older than them knowing full well that sex might be a problem.
FOLUSO
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, it is important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As many times as they want it.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I love kissing. So I do it through kissing, long romance and more.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, I will not advise such.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
1 to three years.
TOKUNBO
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, it is very important, that is the major reason for marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Sex should not be counted. It is something that brings life and bond in a relationship. So, as many times as possible.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
There are different ways to initiate sex. It is done in several ways. So, I do a lot of things to make my wife feel lovely.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, I will not advise such because at a point, the woman will begin to look for younger men.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Five years’ difference is okay.
ALIU
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, it is important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Sex becomes boring when it is planned. So, I will advise as much sex as possible.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
Play with her hair, give a surprise kiss, complement her dressing or her hair.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
Age is just a number if both of them are in love with each other and they are comfortable with themselves, then they can go ahead and be with each other.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
For a normal marriage five years is enough.
MRS. CHINECHEREM OKAFOR
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As much as they want.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
My husband loves fresh food and when I prepare his best meal, I will wait for him to come back from work and serve him like we just got married.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
You cannot determine how active a man can be, a man of 70 can get a woman pregnant. So, if both of them are in love and the man can satisfy the lady then they don’t have a problem.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Five years is enough.
MRS. OGADIMA
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, it is very important, that is the beauty of the marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Twice in a week. Sex is not food, it is a thing for relaxation. And in a situation whereby the couple are working two times is enough.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I am not a sexually active person but once in a while I get romantic with my husband and the rest is history.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
The lady that will do such is only after the man’s money and if you watch her closely she has a boyfriend outside.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Five to 10.
BASIL
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
It’s not just important, it is necessary in marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As much as possible that will satisfy them because it is ordained by God and it is a way of procreation.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It depends on what the couple want and their decision in marriage.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, it is not advisable at all. It is better for a lady to marry a man of her age bracket.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Five years.
MRS. DOMINIC
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, because couples are supposed to come together with the aim of giving birth.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
I don’t know.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It is a thing of agreement.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No it is not advisable because when the man is not sexually active the lady becomes a prostitute and ends up sleeping around because she is married to the man for money.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
10 years.
MRS. FOLAKE
Do you think sex is important in marriage?
Yes, it is because it is the basis for marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Depends on the agreement of both parties, but if a man is marrying for sex then he is not doing the right thing.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It depends on agreement and the understanding of the couple.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It depends on the choice and ability of the girl, if she is in love and she can cope with what she sees in the man.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
10 years.
MRS. AKINBOYE
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, it is
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
A couple should have sex at least three times a week, so that’s about 12 twelve times a month.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I initiate sex with my partner by wearing my very skimpy night gown. My husband knows that the moment I wear this night gown and I start touching him, he knows it’s show time.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, I don’t think it is advisable because I believe sex is one of the most important things in a marriage, so why get married and not be sexually active. How can you just be looking at your partner everyday without doing anything.
DAVID
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, I know sex is important in a marriage, very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
A couple should have sex at least 15 times in a month, to ensure the love is still blazing.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I slowly caress my wife and give her soft kisses on her neck and lips.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while ?
No, it’s not. In fact, it is not acceptable except the person doesn’t like sex at all.
TUNDE AJAYI
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, I do.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
I believe that sex should be a spontaneous thing that shouldn’t be calculated or taken tabs of. Just do it as the spirit and mood leads.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
There are several body languages, it depends on the mood.
Anyone I introduce to my wife immediately she responds because we understand ourselves. Knowing your partner in important in a marriage.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, it’s not.
MRS. ALABI
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, I think sex is important in a marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
I personally don’t keep a sex timetable or calendar with my husband. We do it as the urge comes, whenever and wherever. In the kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, living room or even on the dinning table, we don’t even keep track or count how may times we do it. As long as you’re married you can have sex as many times as you can with your partner.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I just go with the flow and my husband follows suit.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, it’s not.
OLANIKE FOLORUNSHO
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, sex is important. It is one of the reasons people get married. There is no how reproduction will take place without sex. Except through medical assistance.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Sex does not have timetable. May be in polygamous marriage. If not, couples can have it as many times as they want. As long as they have the strength to do it.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It all depends on the individual. I don’t have any particular style at all.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
I don’t think age really matters. Sex is not food that should be taken three times a day. It is just once a while. The man should be old enough to do that. That is another factor intending couple should consider before going into marriage. You shouldn’t be more sexually active than your partner. If not, there will be frustration in that marriage.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Age is irrelevant in marriage. Once there is love, marriage should be conducted under the maturity age as provided by the law of the land from 18 and above.
GBEMI OLUWATIMILEHIN
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes , sex is indeed important in a marriage. Without sex,the couple will just be living as brother and sister.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
It doesn’t have timetable. If they like they shouldn’t go to work and be doing it.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It’s never planned. It is always good to marry someone you desire a lot. The feelings to make love can rise simply from thinking of her. You can initiate sex by showing her love and affection. Sometimes ordinary conversation, if intimate enough, can send the desire to make love involved.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
Some older men are sexually active than some young ones. At times it boils down to health. How healthy is the man? Love plays a major role in it too.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Marriage should be measured in love and not in age. If two people are truly in love, age is then nothing but a number, as they say.
FAVOUR BENJAMIN
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes! It’s very important because it’s the bedrock of mutual relationship and love. Procreation is also one of the reasons for marriage and sex leads to it being fulfilled.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As much as the couple can take. You cannot do a timetable for it. It should be a prompt response to stimulus.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I don’t really have. I just respond to my husband if he needs it. Different strokes for different folks.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It is all about love and respect for whoever the person is. Some women don’t like too much sex. So, it would be a nice idea for them to marry an older person so that the urge can die soonest.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
No definite difference, but it is always advisable that the husband should be the older in marriage.
RITA KING
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
If there is no sex then adultery is what you are calling for. I quite agree with you that sex is very important in marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
At least couples should bond minimum of 10 times a month. If they now want more, that is equally okay.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
Caressing your partner. Touching your partner’s hot spot. It could be verbal as well. Talking dirty and so on.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It all depends on your partner.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Age is not to be in focus. Once you are in love, age may not be relevant.
HELEN OMOLOLU
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
It is a very vital ingredient in a healthy marriage. It makes couple bond, it is for pro creation as well.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
I don’t think there is a limit to it. Different people with different level of sexual feelings. Some can have sex often and some once a while. It all depends on the couple and what they want. As for me, I can’t go more than 10 times in a month.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
Anyhow, it depends on my mood.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It might and it might not. I have seen older men marrying younger women and they are satisfied with their sex life. It all depends.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
I think the maximum should be four.
SEYI AGBENIYI
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, it is. It is the bond of every successful marriage.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
It all depends on the couple’s. Twice a week is a good one.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It is a confidential code that I will not disclose on this platform.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
Not really. Age is not a criteria to being sexually active. It is of the mind and above all, the health condition of the parties involved.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
No ideal age difference but matured mind.
SEUN RUFUS
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, of course. It is important. The day any of the individuals involved stop having sex, then, the marriage is over because that is one of the key reasons marriage was created.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
There is no calculation to sex. It should happen whenever it is meant to happen. Except maybe during pregnancy that one needs to be careful.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
My husband is the one that initiates it. I hardly do. I don’t know. I am not sexually active.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
May be if I was in that position, I would have answered your question. I married a young man.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Age doesn’t really matter because of young girls marrying older men and vice versa. But at least, two to four years is not bad.
MR ANDY IHE
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As much as they can.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
My partner knows when I want sex and vice versa.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, it’s not advisable.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
About five years is good.
RAYMMOND
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
Maybe 20 times a month. It will help them bond well, especially if they are newly married because they will want children.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I tell my wife, or I kiss her passionately or touch her.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It depends, some old men are sexually active.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
0 to 5 years.
- – SHADE WESLEY-METIBOGUN, TINUOLA JOSEPH and GLORY OSIGWE
