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‘Why we cannot settle down now’ -Young men highlight impediments to matrimony

A lot of men find it difficult to settle down for one reason or another. Many believe they are not ready, some are waiting for the ‘perfect woman’, while others are waiting to be financially stable before they go into marriage.

In our world today, we can see that some men who get married early did that due to family pressure or through match-making.

However, ENCOMIUM Weekly spoke with men within the ages of 30 and 40, on why they find it difficult to settle down?

TUNDE DANIEL

When do you intend getting married?

(Smile) Next year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Yes and no, because they are behaving like the modern ladies. That is, they love the things of the world not putting their future into consideration.

What do you look out for in a woman?

God fearing, good looking and hardworking.

At what age should a man be married?

Between the range of 28 and 34.

EJEH ENENCHE

When do you intend getting married?

Next year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Yes, it is difficult because of the fear of the unknown, unseen characters that she might begin to manifest later.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Good body, intelligence, selflessness and respectful.

At what age should a man be married?

It depends on when he realizes that he is a man. Between 27 and 35.

AYOMIDE AYOADE

When do you intend getting married?

Soon, anytime from now.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Not really difficult because men expect a lot from women.

What do you look out for in a woman?

I want a beautiful, understanding and a God fearing person.

At what age should a man be married?

At least 35. As far as men are concerned, we could marry at any age.

OLAMIDE PETER

When do you intend getting married?

Next year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

No it’s not. If you are ready and your lady is also ready then you are good to go.

What do you look out for in a woman?

An understanding person, humble and God fearing.

At what age should a man be married?

Between age 27 and 34.

ADISA ADEGBILE

When do you intend getting married?

Basically, this year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It’s not difficult because you just have to plan towards a particular thing to achieve it.

What do you look out for in a woman?

A humble lady.

At what age should a man be married?

Between 25 and 30. When it’s earlier than 25, then it is too early. But when it’s after 30, it is also too late.

CHARLES S.

When do you intend getting married?

When I discover the right woman.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Yes ooo. It depends on what they have passed through. As for me, I was a victim of disappointment. So, I am still very careful on who to settle down with because I don’t want what has happened to me before to repeat itself.

What do you look out for in a woman?

First of all, she must be God fearing, loyal and be respectful.

At what age should a man be married?

From age 30 upwards.

TOLU BABAYOMI

When do you intend getting married?

Very soon.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It depends on the person’s plan but as for me, I still want to enjoy life. That is, have fun before I finally settle down.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Beauty, love and commitment.

At what age should a man be married?

30 and 32.

KAREEM OJO

When do you intend getting married?

Next year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It is difficult oo. There are diverse women in the society but to find a good wife is difficult.

What do you look out for in a woman?

She must be God fearing, committed and must be a good cook.

At what age should a man be married?

From 30 to 35 years old.

NIYI AYINDE

When do you intend getting married?

I will get married when I am ready.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Yes, it is because if I don’t have enough money to cater for my family, I won’t settle down.

What do you look out for in a woman?

She must be beautiful and financially okay.

At what age should a man be married?

A man doesn’t have a particular age. I think when he is ready.

MOSES

When do you intend getting married?

When I am ready.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Not really. It depends on the man’s plan and income. But as for me, it depends on the ethics because things are now changing.

What do you look out for in a woman?

She must be beautiful, respectful and be committed.

At what age should a man be married?

I think a man should be married before 35 years.

UZOR COLLINS

When do you intend getting married?

I intend getting married next year hopefully.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It’s not difficult for men to settle down, it is difficult finding the right woman because they have gone wild.

What do you look out for in a woman?

God fearing and understanding.

At what age should a man be married?

No particular age for me, marry at the right time when you can assume responsibility.

HENRY ADEPOJU

When do you intend getting married?

I really can’t say for now.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

To some extent, because most ladies after making up your mind to marry them, they start to misbehave.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Her looks, character.

At what age should a man be married?

29 to 34.

TOBI MAUTIN

When do you intend getting married?

When I am 35.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

No, it is not. You just look for the right girl and marry her.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Honest and straight forward and yes great cook.

At what age should a man be married?

When he is ready to settle down.

LAIDE ODUSOTE

When do you intend getting married?

Hopefully before the year runs out.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Yes, it is difficult to get understanding, accommodating and faithful single ladies.

What do you look out for in a woman?

A great cook, patient, caring and virtuous.

At what age should a man be married?

When he’s matured enough.

OLUMIDE OJO

When do you intend getting married?

I intend getting married when I feel I have put things in place.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It is difficult for a man to settle down because he must have a good job and be ready to take care of not only himself but his wife.

What do you look out for in a woman?

It varies because we (men) are looking for various things. For me, it’s beauty and character.

At what age should a man be married?

There is no specific age, but the man should be 25 and above, that can handle situation and take wise decisions.

IFEANYI TOCHUKWU

When do you intend getting married?

When I am ready, I am not yet ready. I have certain goals I want to achieve before marriage.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It depends on individual, some men are too choosy to get a good wife.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Understanding, sense of humour and her character.

At what age should a man be married?

At least anything from 27 years.

TUNDE AKINRANTI

When do you intend getting married?

This year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

No. Let me talk from my own point of view. I met my wife while schooling, we dated for a couple of years and we are planning to get married.

What do you look out for in a woman?

If she is God fearing, tall and has good character.

At what age should a man be married?

Anytime from 25. I don’t see reasons for waiting, as long as the guy is finally empowered.

SEYI AMOO

When do you intend getting married?

When the right lady comes.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It is to a great extent. A lot of ladies nowadays are materialistic. All they want is give me. If you don’t give them, they walk out of the relationship.

What do you look out for in a woman?

A God fearing woman, a homely lady.

At what age should a man be married?

I don’t think there is a stipulated age for marriage.

KENNEDY OKOH

When do you intend getting married?

Next year.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Some men find it difficult to settle down because of spiritual reasons. Any man above 40 years who is not married has a spiritual problem.

What do you look out for in a woman?

God fearing, comportment, attitude and beauty.

At what age should a man be married?

Between 29 years and 33 years.

BALOGUN IGWE

When do you intend getting married?

When I find the right lady.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It all depends – getting a good job, family issues and other things are responsible for delay in marriage.

What do you look out for in a woman?

As long as she is God fearing.

At what age should a man be married?

32.

MONSURU LAWAL

When do you intend getting married?

I don’t know. It is when you find a wife then you think of settling down. It’s not even compulsory to get married, just that your parents won’t let you rest.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

It is not difficult to settle down. It’s just about deciding to settle down, whether there is money or not.

What do you look out for in a woman?

Talking about being physical, she has to be taller than me, she must be smart and intelligent. I don’t want to be doing the thinking all the time.

At what age should a man be married?

Age does not determine marriage. Once you are mature and can handle responsibilities.

WOLE

When do you intend getting married?

When I am capable enough to manage my responsibility.

Would you say it is difficult for men to settle down and why?

Not really difficult, it is easy when there is enough resources.

What do you look out for in a woman?

No woman is perfect. I am not looking for the perfect woman, she must be helpful and generative.

At what age should a man be married?

Age has nothing to do with marriage.

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