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Why young men are shying away from marriage

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The dream of every man is to walk down the aisle with the woman of his dream and be happy ever after, but it seems that aspiration is fast going into oblivion. Men and women seem to be shying away from marriage, as some end up as baby mama’s or single parents. ENCOMIUM Weekly sampled opinions of eligible young men and women to know if they are truly scared of the institution.

We also spoke with marriage experts on the tips to get married early…

 

‘I am looking at settling down in about two years’

-THOMAS ADEOLU

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

No, it’s not. I’m 25 and I am looking at settling down in about two years.

What is the right age for men to get married?

I believe that once a guy is 27/28, he should be getting ready for marriage.

 

‘A lot of young men are not ready for marriage’

-TUNDE DAVIES

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it’s true. A lot of young men are not ready for marriage or any serious commitment.

Why?

Well, for some, it’s finances and other just want to have fun.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

Once a guy is nearing 28, he should be ready for marriage. Like I intend to get married next year, I’ll be 29. I waited this long because I wanted to be financially stable before settling down.

 

‘I’ll take my time’ -ABIODUN ADELEKE

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is.

Why?

Well, in my own case, I am 30 and I’m not married because I have not found a lady of my choice. There are so many ladies looking to settle down out there, but not all of them really know what it takes to be married. They just want to be Mrs. Somebody. So, I’ll take my time and find a good lady rather than end up with one who wouldn’t value and respect the marriage institution.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

I think 30 is about the right age for men to get married, by then the man must have gathered enough money to take care of a family.

 

‘ I am not ready’ -NIRAN ADEYEMI

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Well, I think it is true and that’s for different reasons. For some they have so many women at their disposal and can’t seem to choose one. For others it is finances, while for others it is simply the love of freedom. As for me I am in my late 20’s and I am not ready. Though I’ve found one, I just feel it’s not yet time.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

The right age for men to get married would be from 27.

 

‘I am not financially ready for marriage’

-ADEYEMI ADEOTI

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is true that young men are shying away from marriage.

Why?

Everyone has personal reasons for doing different things, but in my case, money is the problem. I have a girlfriend and she’s been pressurizing me because she’s under pressure from home too, but I am not financially ready for marriage. I have goals I set and as soon as I attain them marriage is the next thing.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

25 is about the most appropriate age for a man to start thinking marriage.

 

YOUNG WOMEN

‘They’re greedy’ -ASHAKE ABEGUNDE

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is.

Why?

I think it’s because they’re greedy and want to have many women at the same time. They are aware that once they get married it would be difficult to live that sort of life again.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

The right age for men to get married is 28.

 

‘Men are running away’ -LILIAN GEORGE

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is and it’s scary. Women want to get married as soon as possible and these men are running away.

Why?

Some of them are just happy messing around and breaking the heart of different girls, while others claim to be looking for the right girl.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

I think at age 27, a normal young man should be thinking marriage. Any man who isn’t thinking on that line at that age should get himself checked out.

 

‘I think it’s immaturity’ -ESTHER TANIMOLA

Is it true that young men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is true, there are so many grown up unmarried men gallivanting about town.

Why?

I think it’s immaturity. You’ll see a 30 year old man with funny hairstyles and sagging trousers, I doubt if someone like that is thinking marriage. All what most men are interested in is show off, do fine boy and break hearts.

What’s the right age for men to get married?

In my opinion, the right age for men to get married would be 28.

 

‘Marriage is for matured people’ -UCHE IKPEAZU

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

I don’t think men are shying away from marriage. I think they are just being cautious of the woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with. They should ask themselves, is she the right woman for me. They will want to know if they are truly ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage. Also, they want to know whether they are ready for marriage in terms of the financial capability because being the head of the house will make him responsible for everything and everyone.

What is the right age to get married?

There is no right age for men to get married. Marriage is not for kids either. Marriage is for matured people who are fully aware of the responsibilities of keeping a home. Example, the financial responsibilities, being able to raise your kids in the right way, being faithful to your spouse. A child wouldn’t know all these. I’m sure you will agree with me.

 

‘Men don’t like commitment’ -TAIWO OLAIDE

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, some men are shying away from marriage.

Why do you think so?

Most of them are not ready to take up responsibility. Men don’t like commitment and don’t like to be monitored. They want to be free that is why they shy away.

What is the right age to get married?

27-29.

 

‘They believe they need to have everything’ -EMMANUEL OKONKWO

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Most men are now shying away from marriage.  It is because they believe they need to have everything such as finance and luxury before marriage.

What is the right age to get married?

The right age for a man to get married is between 30 to 35.

 

‘Some had bad experiences’ -SUNNY EKEH

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Some guys, yes, for different reasons.

Why do you think so?

Some had bad experiences, some financial challenges, some want to flirt very well before marriage.

What is the right age to get married?

Once you are 25, as a man if you can handle marriage, go ahead.

 

‘Every man wants a happy home’ -OLANREWAJU MCLAN

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Men are not shying away from marriage. To have a good lady to take to altar is every man’s dream.

Why do you think so?

Every man wants a happy home where he will get comfort, companionship and friendship.

What is the right age to get married?

It is right for a man to get married between 28 and 30.

 

‘When you can sustain your home’ -EMIOMA NWACHUKWU

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, it is true. Men are shying away from marriage.

Why is it so?

I think men are shying away from marriage because of gender equality campaign which has caused more damage than good. Women understand that they are no longer the weaker vessels, the supposed submissive wife that the bible painted. The woman’s ego has been boosted beyond redemption! Women now match power and authority with their spouses not to mention craving hard for the title breadwinner of the home. Now, let me ask you, which man wouldn’t shy away from marriage when you know you can’t provide the luxury that will make your wife see you as the bread winner!

What is the right age to get married?

The right age for a man to get married is when your bank account has enough zero to sustain your home even when you are gone.

 

‘It doesn’t have a required age’ -OLAJIDE ADENIRAN

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

I don’t agree to that. Men are not shying away from marriage.

Why do you think so?

People get married every day. I attended a wedding today. There are still others coming up. People are getting married every week.

What is the right age to get married?

When the man is ready. It doesn’t have a required age. He may be 26 or 36 or any age.

 

‘Most of my friends are happily married’ – OLADELE AINA

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

I don’t think so. I have friends who are married. Most of my friends are happily married.

Why do you think so?

Most of my friends are happily married. The percentage of men who are married is more than those who are not married.

What is the right age to get married?

When the man has gotten employment. He has an apartment he can put his wife in. He shouldn’t wait till everything is rosy.

 

‘Ladies of nowadays want an already made man’ -AJIBADE WALE

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Yes, I think so, with the number of matured ladies I see around.

Why do you think so?

I have quite a handful of matured ladies as friends. They are not married. Ladies of nowadays want an already made man. They don’t want to endure any form of hardship with any man.

What is the right age to get married?

It depends on individuals but at least, from 28, a man should be looking at settling down.

 

‘They are afraid of divorce’ -ADENIRAN OLUWASEUN

Yes, men are shying away from marriage. Some of the reasons why men don’t want to marry are, long time spent in school, they are afraid of divorce and therefore waiting to gain more experience on marital life.

What is the right age to get married?

I think men should get married between 27 and 30, though individual preference is the main factor.

 

KUNLE TOBA

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Men no longer see marriage as important.

Why do you think so?

Since they can sleep around and even impregnate as many ladies as they want. I think ladies are to blame, they have stooped so low, so we see them like they are too many to the extent that some beg for marriage.

What is the right age to get married?

Age 35 should be the maximum.

 

‘The society today doesn’t encourage early marriage’ -UCHE ANAYO

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Yes.

Why do you think so?

The society today doesn’t encourage early marriage. Some people feel they will be restricted if they get married, that’s why they have baby mamas everywhere. Economic situation is another problem, lack of financial stability.

What is the right age to get married?

Age 30 is okay.

 

‘They are looking for ladies that have good morals’ -DANIEL JAGUN

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

Yes.

Why do you think so?

Men are not getting married because they are looking forward, to a nice lady that is God fearing has good morals and respects people, disciplined, good looking, has the ability to cook, etc. And these qualities are very scarce.

What is the right age to get married?

Anytime.

 

‘Failure to get a perfect match’ -TOLU KESHINRO

Is it true that men are shying away from marriage?

I will say men don’t want to get married early, that is before 30.

Why do you think so?

Failure to get a perfect match early also affects this.

What is the right age to get married?

A man should get married when he finds his best friend.

 

 

MARRIAGE EXPERTS

MRS. OMOTAYO OLAWUMI

Is it true that men are shying away from getting married?

Not really, if we compare the percentage of unmarried men to those that are married. A lot more people are getting married. At least wedding takes place every weekend. Though some men are not serious when it comes to the issue of marriage. You can’t totally blame them, the economic situation and the attitude of ladies is responsible.

What is the right age for a man to get married?

A man should get married when he is 30. He will do well if he can get married earlier than that age.

At what age should a man start a relationship that will lead to marriage?

He should start a relationship that will lead to marriage when he is in his mid 20s. I believe it is better to have a relatively long courtship, not too long though. At least four to five years.

Tips for men to get married on time?

They shouldn’t be choosy. They should start a serious relationship on time. Don’t wait till you leave school. Get a good friend that loves you, shares the same valves with you. Someone who is compatible with you. Someone who treats you well. Don’t wait till you have a fat bank account before you think of marriage.

 

PATRICIA EDET

Is it true that men are shying away from getting married?

Some men are actually shying away from marriage because of social status and pressure from the lady who wants a man that has a million dollar. Some ladies are over demanding.

What is the right age for a man to get married?

I don’t think age actually matters. A man might finish school late, may be in his early 30’s. Once he is mature to be a man, he has a source of income and an apartment to set up his home he’s ready to go.

At what age should a man start a relationship that will lead to marriage?

It is best to start early, at least at 24 or 25 he should be engaged. If it doesn’t work out, he could start all over again.

Tips for men to get married on time?

Starting a serious relationship on time is important. The man should also get serious on time. Some men want to play away first before getting serious, that is not good enough.

 

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