Living in harmony with your mother-in-law requires patience, endurance, respect and good communication. Not all mothers-in-law are wicked like they are being portrayed in Nigeria. Even though some can be frustrating and overzealous, you should know that someday you will also be in that position.
The mother/daughter-in-law relationship is one of the most complicated human connections, and a wife who lacks respect, patience and endurance tends to get frustrated and this can jeopardize the marriage.
ENCOMIUM Weekly sought opinions of couples on if they could accommodate their mothers-in-law to live with them…
MRS. SOEWU OMOLARA
It depends on how nice she is. But if she isn’t nice, she will leave after a while because I can’t allow my mother-in-law to scatter my marriage.
MRS. SHARON ADEBOWALE
No one older than me is welcome in my home. I don’t need her to nurse my baby when I give birth. We can hire a nanny that can be controlled. So, I don’t want a mother-in-law that will poke nose into my family affairs.
I can never accommodate my mother-in-law. It is unheard of because I can’t accommodate mother and daughter. It is not possible. I will rather rent an apartment for her.
MRS. YETUNDE ADENIJI
I can accommodate her. I will be a mother-in-law someday and I have a mother too. In fact, I can accommodate all my husband’s relatives.
MRS. GLORY NWACHUWU
No! I want peace in my home. No matter how accommodating and peaceful she is, she can only stay for a while and then leave.
I don’t have any problem with accommodating my mother-in-law when it is not as if she will be sleeping in the same room with me. I even like my mother-in-law so well. She is a good woman.
MRS. KEMI AJAYI
Yes, nothing stops her from living with us. My mother-in-law has never seen herself a rival when the daughter at home. In fact, I usually enjoy her company whenever she’s around.
What will prompt her to start living with us? Though I like her too much and can only allow her pay courtesy visit and go back. It is when mother-in-law arrives that strange occurrence star taking place.
MRS. VICTORIA OLANIYI
I can’t accommodate my mother-in-law, not even this one I have. I can’t tolerate any of her behaviour and I am not ready to be out of my marriage anytime soon. So, it is better I live separately and she does too. Whenever she wants to visit she can, but not staying permanently.
MRS. MORAYO KUTI
No, because I don’t want her to ruin my marriage. I also don’t plan to live in my children’s house if I grow old, because I want them to enjoy their marriages.
No! Why should I accommodate my mother-in-law. My house belongs to my wife and my children. External family members are not included, so I can’t.
MRS. SULIAT OKANLAWON
Yes, because my mother-in-law is very accommodating and gentle. She doesn’t see me as a daughter-in-law but as her daughter. We are very close. I will be glad if my husband can allow her live with us
I can’t accommodate that wicked woman. My mother-in-law is not a good person at all. She doesn’t like me and I don’t like her too. She didn’t even want my husband to marry me. I can’t accommodate her for one day.
I can’t live with my mother-in-law. But the question is, accommodating her for how long. If it’s for a short period, fine, but living with us for long is a no for me.
I can accommodate her of course. I don’t really have problem with my mother-in-law. There’s nothing bad with her living with us.