The Bible says once a man is joined to his wife, he becomes one flesh with her but does this apply to their finances? Find out as we sample opinions of women on if they can surrender their account to their husband with these questions (1) Can you surrender your account to your husband? (2) Why?
MRS. GLORIA JOSHUA – I can only give him my pin and my ATM card; we can also have a joint account as well. But, what belongs to me is mine. He has his own account and I have my own account.
MRS. ABUDU – No, I cannot. Let everyone bear his or her father’s name. It is better that way. I pray the situation that would warrant me to surrender my account to him would not arise. I prefer having my own money and he has his own money.
MRS. ELIZABETH JOHN – Yes, I can do that. Why not? It is what we practice in my house. We are transparent to each other. He knows all I have in my account, I know his too. I believe once we got married we are no more two but one. What he has is mine, what I have is for him. After all, I used to give him my ATM card to withdraw money and he also does the same thing and he might not remember to collect it until he needs to withdraw from that account again.
MRS. EMMANUELLA KINGS
I don’t think it is wise thing to do, even though the two are now one flesh. It is better for the husband to mind his own account and the woman to mind her own account. Anything can happen, God forbid, what if the man dies, does that mean his father should take over all she has worked for? I will even advise couples to own a joint account too in case of anything.
MRS. OKEKE – It all depends on what you mean by surrender. If it is just for him to run the account for me without having access to the money in it, yes, I can. If surrender means he should have access to the money, no I can’t. We both have our individual accounts. I don’t have access to his account, why should he have to mine? I don’t know how much he has in his account, he shouldn’t know mine too.
MRS. JOEL HELEN – No, I cannot surrender my account to him. We are both working. I can support him when the need arises. I prefer to handle my account by myself.
MRS. MARY JOHNSON – Yes, I can. That is what we do. We both surrender our account to each other. I surrender mine and he surrenders his. We are both accountable to each other. That is how marriage should be. Once you are joined together, you should work together.
MRS. BUSAYO SADIQ – I cannot do that in this dispensation. It is a dangerous thing to do. I wouldn’t have a say on what I worked for, I can’t buy and give my money at will without answering questions. Let me keep my account by myself.
NWACHUKWU YETUNDE – That should be the ideal thing. Nothing should be kept from each other anymore.
They are both married. If they truly love and respect each other, it shouldn’t be something different.
MRS. ISHO IGE – Yes, I can, once he is ready to do the same. Some men sometimes are funny. A lot of them cannot surrender their account to their wives. Some women don’t even know how much their husbands earn.
MRS. TOLULOPE STEPHEN – Yes, I can. We are very open in my marriage. I am in charge of the finance of the family. I have his details and he has mine. I have all the ATM cards and their pin. Once there is trust. He has warned me never to question some of his decisions and also not to touch his account without his permission. I have earned his trust that he handed over everything to me. I also have to be faithful and trustworthy.
MRS. NWAGBEKE – Yes, I can. It is not a big deal. What do we have that is not given by God? Everything comes from God. Once you and your husband are one, you trust each other; there is nothing to hide from each other.
MRS. AKINYODE – Yes, I can. Once they are married. We are one. My husband should be able to do likewise.