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Nigerian women protest label as world’s most unfaithful

Durex, a condom manufacturing company in the United Kingdom, carried out a survey to ascertain the level of unfaithfulness amongst women in different countries.

Speaking with 29,000 women in 36 countries, the result revealed Nigeria as topping the chart.

Durex survey taken across Asia and Africa revealed that Thailand men are the most unfaithful in the world, with 54 percent of them admitting to cheating on their spouses. South Korea came second with 34 percent, while Malaysia ranked number three with 33 percent. Nothing was said of American women or women in Europe.

The survey revealed that the top two countries with cheating women are Nigeria, with 62 percent, and Thailand, 59 percent. 39 percent of Malaysian women also confessed to having betrayed their partners. Russian women came fourth at 33 percent while Singaporeans are fifth at 19 percent.

Another independent survey also conducted in Africa affirmed the fact that Nigeria, with a population of over 160 million tops the chart for cheating women. ENCOMIUM Weekly sampled opinion of Nigerians about this assertion…

 

‘More Nigerian women are faithful’ -SHOLA IBIDAPO

Do you think Nigeria women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, I cannot believe that.

Why did you say so?

More Nigerian women are faithful to their marriages than other nations. Ours can be attributed to various factors like religion, which has become the standard for most of us and then tradition. Despite our exposure and enlightenment, a typical Nigerian woman still holds firm to the dictates of tradition, either of her background or that of her husband’s.

And the ego of our men will not allow their wives do such. A man can kill any woman suspected of infidelity, whether true or not. It’s seen as a slap on the man’s face and not an emotional problem.

 

 

‘That survey cannot be correct’  -YEMI OGUNLANA

Do you think Nigeria women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, I don’t think so. How will they jump into conclusion like that.

Why did you say so?

That survey cannot be correct. What was the yardstick they used in conducting their poll? How many women did they talk to and what scientific methods did they use to arrive at such a ridiculous conclusion? I will not say Nigerian women are completely innocent but they are not the most notorious in that regard. I have friends from other countries who are married and at the same time keep multiple lovers, and I, happily married to my husband for 10 years now never strayed. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t intend to.

 

‘ I think the survey is not correct’ -KEMI ADEDAYO

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, it cannot be, what about South African women. I don’t agree with that.

Why?

Our women have been faithful to their husbands. In the Diaspora, you can’t tell your wife to keep away from certain associations, she will shout at you, and tell you to mind your business that she is an adult, and knows how to take care of herself- including knowing when to say no to overtures. But Nigerian women are decent. Some do it secretly but it is not common. I think the survey is not correct as well. I have five friends and none of them is unfaithful. Nigerian women are so religious, that has curbed a lot of excesses on their part.

 

‘A lot of our married women sleep around’ -CHIKA IFEANYI

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

I think so, though I am not sure.

Why did you say so?

I have been guilty of that before. I am not even proud to say it; a lot of our married women sleep around.

At least among my circle of friends- we have at one point or the other maintained other relationships. Sometimes, the reason may not even be for material gains, but for the fun of it. But we are not different from other Africans. I know friends who are married too, but have been faithful to their husbands. I think our men should find a means to challenge themselves and ask what it is they are doing that is not right. I don’t think a woman will willingly go out there to cheat on her husband if the game is right at home, if you know what I mean.

 

‘My woman is very religious’ -JIDE BALOGUN

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, that is not right. If you say men, I can agree with you.

Why did you say so?

I have been married for 20 years and my wife has not cheated on me once. In every way, she has been very faithful even despite my unfaithfulness. I am even the culprit. My woman is very religious to the extent that I think she is taking it overboard. She dear not see my daughter talk to a boy, I mean it, she can kill that girl. I don’t think somebody like that will go after men while she is married. Even while we were dating, she gave me a lot of tough times before she agreed to marry me. I met her as a virgin, she wouldn’t do that. I know her clique of friends too cannot do such.

 

‘Nigerian women are more sexually decent’  -YEMI AWOTUNDE

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

I don’t think so.

Why did you say so?

While we were still dating, I could say she kept other men, but as soon as she became certain that I was serious about her, she dropped them and has since then been more than faithful to me.

Nigerian women are more sexually decent than women in  other places of the world. In Nigeria, family values are cherished and women who cheat do so mostly in secret.

 

‘The stigma it attracts is a deterrent’ -MOBOLAJI IDOWU

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, I cannot agree to that.

Why?

Nigerian women are generally family-centred and conscious of society’s approval. Only a few would risk rubbishing the integrity of their families, especially that of their children, for a moment of pleasure. Our society is yet to liberate women to the level of equal rights with men. Thus, no Nigerian woman will be applauded for cheating on her husband socially. The stigma it attracts is a deterrent. Besides, what a man can do and get away with in Nigeria, a woman cannot try it and get away and this includes being unfaithful in marriage.

 

‘ I will agree that single  ladies are more unfaithful ‘  -OLAMIDE ADENIYI

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

If you say the single ladies, I will say yes, because there are a lot of them who don’t stick to one boyfriend.

Why?

Like I said, I will agree that ladies are more unfaithful but once a woman is married, she has gotten to her bus stop. What else does she want? Can’t you see that we have more women in church than men? They are very religious, they uphold societal values. The shame and disgrace such will give them will make them shy away from doing such. Fine, we have heard cases of a woman saying all the children she had do not belong to her husband but it is one to 10. Unless some of them are doing it secretly. Even at that. I don’t think it is to the extent that they will be tagged the most unfaithful in the world.

 

‘It cannot be true’ -NNEKA ADESHOLA

Do you think Nigerian women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, that cannot be true.

Why?

A lot of men come back to Nigeria to choose a wife. In fact, most of them do, they insist Nigerian women are better. Some of them still have Nigerians as wives after marrying a white woman over there. I am not saying some women are not unfaithful but, the percentage cannot be that outrageous.

 

‘Most married women want to stay in their marriage’

-ANTHONIA CHUKWU

Do you think Nigeria women are the most unfaithful in the world?

No, I don’t agree with that.

Why?

The culture, tradition and values Nigerians uphold do not permit that. Some might do it before they get married, once they are married, they stop it. It is only the possessed ones that can continue to engage in adultery. Most married women want to stay in their marriage, uphold the dignity of that union as well.

-SHADE WESLEY-METIBOGUN

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