Encomium
-How we initiate it, and the number of times in a week
The importance of sex in a marriage cannot be overemphasized. A lot of people believe sex is the string that holds a marriage in place.
Love, understanding, tolerance and sex work together to make a marriage stay in place through thick and thin. Age is also a big deal in a lot of Nigerian marriages as many believe that the man should always be slightly older than the wife, while a few believe that age is nothing but a number.
A lot of couples apparently do not know or have any idea how to initiate sex with their spouses neither do they know how many times they should be with their spouses in a month.
ENCOMIUM Weekly spoke with married men and women on how important sex is, the right age difference between a couple , and whether it is right for women to marry men way older than them knowing full well that sex might be a problem…
MRS. EFFIONG
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
It depends on what the couple want.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
This also depends on what the couple want, how they want it and what they feel for each other. If they decide to have sex once in a month it is their decision.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
No, it is not. But it depends. Not every woman is sexually active, neither is every man. So, if they feel they are compatible, then they can go ahead and marry.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Two to five years is enough.
- ADEMOLA
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes! It is in the Bible. It is made for enjoyment and procreation.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
I don’t know.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It is by agreement. My wife and I have to agree when we have to have sex.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It is not bad, depending on what the two of them want. But most women now are promiscuous. Their marriage to older men is for money and not love. So, it is better not to start what you cannot finish.
What should be the age different between a couple?
Five years is enough. That is the age for a normal marriage.
- HASSAN
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, it is important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As many times as they want! They don’t have to set a particular date for sex. It is something that comes as an urge.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
Pat her on her buttocks, compliment her or sometimes I tell her sweet words and it will get her in the mood.
- YUSUF
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
It depends on how much strength the man and the woman have. As a man, you need ejaculation at least twice in a week because sex is good.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
It is a natural thing. I compliment my wife, tell her she is looking good and she understands what I mean.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
Age is just a number. If the lady can cope with the man, she is free to marry him.
What should be the age different between a couple?
Six years is enough, there will be respect.
- SEGUN ADEMOLA
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, very important.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
As much as they can! Sex has no limit, as far as they are in love.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
I love early morning sex, so before I leave for work I will get it. When I am coming back, I will call my wife and sweet talk her.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
If the woman is sexually active and she knows the man is also sexually active both of them are compatible. But if not, I will not advise such.
What should be the age difference between a couple?
Five year difference.
MRS. ANIMASHAUN
Do you think sex is important in a marriage?
Yes, it is very important that is why I am married.
How much sex should a couple have in a month?
It depends on the sexual ability or libido of the couple. If a woman thinks she likes sex and her husband is sexually active, then they can have as much as they can.
How do you initiate sex with your partner?
First, I dress to kill by putting on sexy dresses at night. Prepare his best meal and it will make him long for me.
Do you think it is advisable to marry an older man considering the fact that he might not be sexually active after a while?
It is a total turn down for me. It is a no, because that lady will still be sleeping outside which is bad.
- GLORY OSIGWE
